but..boys will be boys. 

BUT…

“she was flirting with him at the bar”

“she kissed him on the dance floor”

“she went home with him”

“why didn’t she report it to the police?”

“she should have known better”

“why didn’t she tell anyone?”

“she just didn’t want people to think she was a slut”

“he’s such a nice guy, though”

“why didn’t she just leave?”

“she had been texting him all night.”

“she was wearing a short skirt”

“she has slept with a few different guys, why is she acting like this is any different?”

“she didn’t say no”

“he’s a good looking guy, he doesn’t need to rape anyone”

“she didn’t want to admit she cheated on her boyfriend”

“he was drunk”

– 

stop “boys will be boys”

stop the “buts” and making excuses for inexcusable behavior.

stop pretending that sexual assault doesn’t happen. 

stop saying what the survivor should have or shouldn’t have done. 

stop contributing to rape culture by making claims and comments about things you know very little about.

stop shaming those who are brave enough to speak up about sexual assault.

let’s START by listening and supporting our fellow women and men.

lets START by being aware and sharing information to make others aware.

lets START by educating young people about consent, the law and teach our children to respect one another.

I can’t help it. I’m so passionate about this topic. I believe there needs to be something enforced into schools or workplaces, so people are more aware and don’t have to fall into the hole of shame, which has been created by society. 

statistics:

New Zealand – Reporting of sexual violence in is very low, with only an estimated 9% of incidents ever reported to police.  

Sri Lanka – estimated 96.5% of the men who had raped experienced no legal consequences.

Ethiopia – estimated 60% of women have experienced some form of sexual assault

Canada – it is estimated 1 in 3 women have experienced sexual assault and only 6% are reported to the police.

UK – Approximatly 85,000 women are raped a year (on average) in England & Wales.

United States – 1 in 6 U.S. women and 1 in 33 U.S. men has experienced an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime. 16% are reported to the police.

 

sources:

http://rpe.co.nz
http://www.wonderslist.com/10-countries-highest-rape-crime/

 

 

 

 

 

 

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