As some of you may know if you follow me on Facebook, i recently posted that i had jumped on the bandwagon and was watching the netflix series – 13 Reasons Why.
I won’t jump too far into the the story line, as i don’t want to spoil it for those who haven’t watched it, but what i will say, it covers very serious topics – such as bullying, suicide and rape.
Wikipedia description –
Based on the book by Jay Asher – Hannah Baker, a young woman who takes her own life. Two weeks after her tragic death, a classmate named Clay finds a mysterious box on his porch. Inside the box are recordings made by Hannah — in which she explains the 13 reasons why she chose to commit suicide. If Clay decides to listen to the recordings, he will find out if and how he made the list.
I didn’t know what to expect – it had been so hyped about on social media, sometimes i feel those trends fall short for me, but this didn’t. i believe its such an important piece of work, well worth your time, especially for parents.
I feel it wasn’t all that long ago i was experiencing some of the similar stuff that Hannah did. i mean, i am almost 25, (wtf.. half way to 50?!) but a lot of the stuff, up until just recently took me a long time to over come and accept it for what it was, and to be OK. and i know there is people our there who will think this is just very dramatized for TV, but i can tell you, so many people live it. through someone who has been there, i believe this to be one of the most realist portrayals of high school life – from my point of view.
As a teen, i desperately wanted to fit in, i felt like very few people understood me or wanted to give me the time of day. i was that girl who let people walk all over her to just appear “cool”, i put myself in dangerous positions just to fit in – i was just screaming for help. i wanted someone to turn around and tell me they cared. i looked for love in anyone, i allowed myself to get treated by “friends” in terrible ways, just because i thought these things was all i was worth, because no one seemed to care.
From being name called, harassed, bullied, assaulted, it was my reality, (i am not implying i was at all an angel, but i tried to protect myself). i got to points in life, that i was coming up with crazy things to do, to end it, so people would leave me alone. this is sadly a reality for so many other kids in the school systems… and it is not OK. i mean sure, going through that stuff made me who i am, i am grateful for the experiences, but would i be OK seeing my son or my partners children experience this sort of stuff? no! in fact, it terrifies me to think of this sort of shit the kids are being exposed too, after experiencing it myself.
IT IS OK TO NOT BE OK!
Please just reach out, and tell someone. people are not mind readers, and a lot of people are not aware of the signs of people who are depressed or suicidal, because it has become such a taboo subject that people are too scared to talk about. people want to help you – please, never feel ashamed to reach out.
PEOPLE WANT TO HELP.
This website lists ALL suicide hotlines – for wherever you are in the world
NZ Lifeline – 0800 543 354
AUS Lifeline – 13 11 14
USA Lifeline – 1-800 273 8255
Please reach out, its ok not to be ok.
Have you watched the series? what did you think of it?
sending you so much love – because you are loved.